Living the Reiki Way with Kindness


Kindness should be a no-brainer in this line of work, but unfortunately I have met some pretty nasty “Reiki Practitioners.” Which is just sad.

But with every profession, there are always going to be a few rotten tomatoes, which is just something you have to shrug off, laugh at, and send energy to. 

With all my studies and practices, especially as a pacifist and animal lover/vegetarian, I take this one extra seriously, more so than my views on “Diligence.” 

I have come to realize that there is “no place for prejudice, harsh judgment, cruelty, or indifference in a world where we are all connected, all a part of the whole, and all one.” Everyone and thing has a vital role to play and obviously be valued, respected, and treated with kindness. 


Kindness in my opinion, is not only the concept of compassion for oneself and others, but of all sentient beings. This being animals, insects, trees, you name it. We as energy practitioners must know by this stage that our environments, actions, and thoughts impact our energy and our higher self, not to mention our awakening. If you use phrases like “I hate,” or “kill it!” you probably haven’t mastered this precept. And yet again, that is alright. We all develop at different stages. I may take it a bit farther than my omnivore compatriots, but that’s okay. I’m not a die-hard vegetarian. I eat diary, and occasionally some meats and egg products, but within reason. I eat organic, free-range, fresh from the farm, eggs without chemicals or hormone. I eat wild game that is killed with reverence and honour, where the entire animal and it’s spirit is respected and given proper ceremony. It’s a once a year kind of thing, and don’t think I eat a whole steak, because that would just kill my insides. (Talk about using “kill” language.)

My point here is of ahimsa, to do no harm. To all our brother and sister friends. To the furred, finned, feathered, and scaled. To the earth mother and universe as a whole. We need to be the peace we wish to see in the world. If we are diligent in our own personal development, we have to care enough about the larger and bigger picture: the whole of humanity and planet. 


I have a thick background in environmentalism, so this one was a no brainer, but I feel that in this day and age of climate change; we 90’s children that grew up on watching Captain Planet should have the concept of recycling down pat. Bottom line: be kind to our mother. 

Furthermore, as practitioners, we already have an open-mind about certain things. Our vernacular is pretty expansive, it is blended with countless faiths and spiritual teachings from around the world. So embrace that, show that. Treat all beings with respect (and this is where it becomes tricky) even the ignorant or smelly ones.

We all are prone to making judgments based on appearance, based on creed, and based upon people who have hurt us in the past. We project those illusions onto everyone else out there, as if the whole of humanity has done us wrong, or that everyone with the name Kevin is going to be a psycho-path. This isn’t true. Life mirrors our inner selves. So the things we dislike in others, is what we dislike in ourselves. The actions of others that annoy us, are actually things we have done in the past that we may feel guilt or shame for. (If not in this lifetime, in our past lifetimes this is certainly true.)  


There shouldn’t be an “Us versus Them,” anywhere in your Reiki Practice. We all have done it all.  

There shouldn’t be an “My Reiki is better than Your Reiki,” anywhere in your Reiki Practice. Because it is all the same at the core. There is no contest to see who wins or loses. 

There shouldn’t be an… oh, well, you get the picture. Be nice! 

And begin with yourself. 

What was the last kind thing you have done for yourself, and it better not just be a “self-healing.” It’s time to raise the bar here now people. 

The time has come to stop resenting yourself, being over critical, and carrying around your guilt.

After all, Jesus didn’t say to love your neighbor better than you love yourself!”

 And this is a tricky one for us Reiki Practitioners out in the thick of it all, myself included. Sometimes, we can fall into the trap of always trying to help others and forgetting to look after ourselves. (That important stuff we all learned way back in Reiki 1). 

So it is time to be treat yourself right. It is time to meet your Higher Self and Inner Child and treat them with as much loving kindness as you do others. Nourish and nurture yourself. Because, in the words of Marianne Williamson, “our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us – it’s in everyone! Ans as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others!” 

Now would be a great time to do the exercises on pages 198, and 202.


30 Tips for Living with Loving-Kindness

  • Whenever you walk by a mirror, say “Hello Gorgeous.” And mean it!
  • Make it your own special mission to be kind to others each day at least once, and to extend the same privilege to yourself as much as possible.
  • Pay it forward with Random Acts of Kindness.
  • Give a gift of service – do something useful like carrying someone’s groceries, or volunteering at a nursing home, animal, or homeless shelter.
  • Give a gift of affection – be generous with hugs, kisses, and pats on the back.
  • Share laughter – gift others with funny stories verbally or via email, cutting out cartoons is always fun!
  • Give writing – send thank-you cards, and keep in contact with friends regularly via email.
  • Give compliments – Sincere compliments are what everyone needs and wants.
  • Listen to people – no interrupting, no daydreaming, no responding, put the phone down and just listen.  
  • Develop Loving-Kindness by meditating on Friendliness (metta), Compassion (karuna), Appreciative Joy (mudita), and Equanimity/Mental Calmness (upekkha.)
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of yourself.
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of people you respect.
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of those close to you you care for.
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of neutral parties, people you know but have no particular feelings for.
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of your enemies or those whom you are currently having problems.
  • Visualize yourself or other people smiling.
  • Reflect on the positive qualities of yourself and others.
  • Repeat a mantra like “Love,” or “Kindness” aloud or silently in your mind.
  • Forgive others their trespasses. Love more, hate less. 
  • Take the attitude of friendliness, openness, and empathy into your daily life.
  • Take the attitude of friendliness, openness, and empathy into your home.
  • Take the attitude of friendliness, openness, and empathy into your work.
  • Take the attitude of friendliness, openness, and empathy into ALL your relationships.
  • Offer your Reiki gifts to those who complain of dis-ease. Share it and speak up.
  • Offer to send Reiki as a distant treatment to someone who is ill or is dis-eased.
  • Offer Reiki to a world situation via a Reiki Box, Paper, or other method you have learned.
  • Remember, “when we bring sunshine into the lives of others, we’re warmed by it ourselves; when we spill a little happiness, it splashes on us.”
  • Remember, “Kindness in words creates confidence.”
  • Remember, “Kindness in thinking creates profundity.”
  • Remember, “Kindness in giving creates love.”


  • Gratitude to Creative Commons Photographers Bk and Ed Yourdon.
  • Living the Reiki Way by Penelope Quest

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