Living the Reiki Way with Kindness


Kindness should be a no-brainer in this line of work, but unfortunately I have met some pretty nasty “Reiki Practitioners.” Which is just sad.

But with every profession, there are always going to be a few rotten tomatoes, which is just something you have to shrug off, laugh at, and send energy to. 

With all my studies and practices, especially as a pacifist and animal lover/vegetarian, I take this one extra seriously, more so than my views on “Diligence.” 

I have come to realize that there is “no place for prejudice, harsh judgment, cruelty, or indifference in a world where we are all connected, all a part of the whole, and all one.” Everyone and thing has a vital role to play and obviously be valued, respected, and treated with kindness. 


Kindness in my opinion, is not only the concept of compassion for oneself and others, but of all sentient beings. This being animals, insects, trees, you name it. We as energy practitioners must know by this stage that our environments, actions, and thoughts impact our energy and our higher self, not to mention our awakening. If you use phrases like “I hate,” or “kill it!” you probably haven’t mastered this precept. And yet again, that is alright. We all develop at different stages. I may take it a bit farther than my omnivore compatriots, but that’s okay. I’m not a die-hard vegetarian. I eat diary, and occasionally some meats and egg products, but within reason. I eat organic, free-range, fresh from the farm, eggs without chemicals or hormone. I eat wild game that is killed with reverence and honour, where the entire animal and it’s spirit is respected and given proper ceremony. It’s a once a year kind of thing, and don’t think I eat a whole steak, because that would just kill my insides. (Talk about using “kill” language.)

My point here is of ahimsa, to do no harm. To all our brother and sister friends. To the furred, finned, feathered, and scaled. To the earth mother and universe as a whole. We need to be the peace we wish to see in the world. If we are diligent in our own personal development, we have to care enough about the larger and bigger picture: the whole of humanity and planet. 


I have a thick background in environmentalism, so this one was a no brainer, but I feel that in this day and age of climate change; we 90’s children that grew up on watching Captain Planet should have the concept of recycling down pat. Bottom line: be kind to our mother. 

Furthermore, as practitioners, we already have an open-mind about certain things. Our vernacular is pretty expansive, it is blended with countless faiths and spiritual teachings from around the world. So embrace that, show that. Treat all beings with respect (and this is where it becomes tricky) even the ignorant or smelly ones.

We all are prone to making judgments based on appearance, based on creed, and based upon people who have hurt us in the past. We project those illusions onto everyone else out there, as if the whole of humanity has done us wrong, or that everyone with the name Kevin is going to be a psycho-path. This isn’t true. Life mirrors our inner selves. So the things we dislike in others, is what we dislike in ourselves. The actions of others that annoy us, are actually things we have done in the past that we may feel guilt or shame for. (If not in this lifetime, in our past lifetimes this is certainly true.)  


There shouldn’t be an “Us versus Them,” anywhere in your Reiki Practice. We all have done it all.  

There shouldn’t be an “My Reiki is better than Your Reiki,” anywhere in your Reiki Practice. Because it is all the same at the core. There is no contest to see who wins or loses. 

There shouldn’t be an… oh, well, you get the picture. Be nice! 

And begin with yourself. 

What was the last kind thing you have done for yourself, and it better not just be a “self-healing.” It’s time to raise the bar here now people. 

The time has come to stop resenting yourself, being over critical, and carrying around your guilt.

After all, Jesus didn’t say to love your neighbor better than you love yourself!”

 And this is a tricky one for us Reiki Practitioners out in the thick of it all, myself included. Sometimes, we can fall into the trap of always trying to help others and forgetting to look after ourselves. (That important stuff we all learned way back in Reiki 1). 

So it is time to be treat yourself right. It is time to meet your Higher Self and Inner Child and treat them with as much loving kindness as you do others. Nourish and nurture yourself. Because, in the words of Marianne Williamson, “our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us – it’s in everyone! Ans as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others!” 

Now would be a great time to do the exercises on pages 198, and 202.


30 Tips for Living with Loving-Kindness

  • Whenever you walk by a mirror, say “Hello Gorgeous.” And mean it!
  • Make it your own special mission to be kind to others each day at least once, and to extend the same privilege to yourself as much as possible.
  • Pay it forward with Random Acts of Kindness.
  • Give a gift of service – do something useful like carrying someone’s groceries, or volunteering at a nursing home, animal, or homeless shelter.
  • Give a gift of affection – be generous with hugs, kisses, and pats on the back.
  • Share laughter – gift others with funny stories verbally or via email, cutting out cartoons is always fun!
  • Give writing – send thank-you cards, and keep in contact with friends regularly via email.
  • Give compliments – Sincere compliments are what everyone needs and wants.
  • Listen to people – no interrupting, no daydreaming, no responding, put the phone down and just listen.  
  • Develop Loving-Kindness by meditating on Friendliness (metta), Compassion (karuna), Appreciative Joy (mudita), and Equanimity/Mental Calmness (upekkha.)
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of yourself.
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of people you respect.
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of those close to you you care for.
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of neutral parties, people you know but have no particular feelings for.
  • Develop acceptance and loving-kindness of your enemies or those whom you are currently having problems.
  • Visualize yourself or other people smiling.
  • Reflect on the positive qualities of yourself and others.
  • Repeat a mantra like “Love,” or “Kindness” aloud or silently in your mind.
  • Forgive others their trespasses. Love more, hate less. 
  • Take the attitude of friendliness, openness, and empathy into your daily life.
  • Take the attitude of friendliness, openness, and empathy into your home.
  • Take the attitude of friendliness, openness, and empathy into your work.
  • Take the attitude of friendliness, openness, and empathy into ALL your relationships.
  • Offer your Reiki gifts to those who complain of dis-ease. Share it and speak up.
  • Offer to send Reiki as a distant treatment to someone who is ill or is dis-eased.
  • Offer Reiki to a world situation via a Reiki Box, Paper, or other method you have learned.
  • Remember, “when we bring sunshine into the lives of others, we’re warmed by it ourselves; when we spill a little happiness, it splashes on us.”
  • Remember, “Kindness in words creates confidence.”
  • Remember, “Kindness in thinking creates profundity.”
  • Remember, “Kindness in giving creates love.”


  • Gratitude to Creative Commons Photographers Bk and Ed Yourdon.
  • Living the Reiki Way by Penelope Quest

Living the Reiki Way With Diligence


Living diligently is so much more than just going to your “job” and making a living. Oftentimes, we practitioners have many jobs and many roles, but we can bring Reiki to all of them. But we forget to sometimes, and that is okay.

If you have taken any of my Reiki classes, you know that I always stress the importance of both thirst and action because this type of work needs a passionate heart.

It takes diligence to wake up every morning to meditate and chant the precepts. It takes diligence to not let your anger get the better of you. It takes diligence to face your fears. It takes diligence to look into the mirror and confront what you see with humble compassion.

And it also takes diligence to slow down in order to deal with your increased demands. We must listen, reflect, and then act. But act we must. Because there is work to be done, but only you can do it! Your teacher, your lover, your friends: they can help, but you must be the one to walk your talk! To truly be one with the Source of Reiki, to truly be one with all, we must be steadfast in our practice. Every day just for today, living your life in the moment. It takes a keen mind, a willing body, and an open heart.

It takes you to be willing to meet the measure of Usui Sensei, and not just place your hands on people or yourself to heal them, but to live and breathe the Reiki Way. To help your fellow man at every instant you can. To represent the practice by leading by example. To work hard, and harder still at your own trauma and shadows. To work hard, and harder still on your own addictions and fears. To work hard, and harder still on your health and energy field.


Sure, we are all humans, and very few of us in the western world have had the training of a monk or samurai. But there are those who have developed the patience and skill to rise up with responsibility as well as respectability.

You have to be willing to speak up for the principles of nonviolence and love in the face of war-mongers; but with skill not attack. You have to be willing to stand up for others when they are being mistreated; but with skill not attack. Animals, plants, the environment too. You have to be willing to embrace your differences with others; but with skill not attack.

Diligence comes with creating and respecting your honour. Now, here is a word that is not heard of often in our western culture. “Honour.” Do you hold the Reiki Guardian Credo or Code of Conduct of Holistic Practitioners seriously? Do you possess integrity, decency, and morality? As a Reiki Practitioner I sure hope so. And if not, I ask, what is it you truly seek to do with your practice? What wounds need to be healed? What balms will you apply to it? More anger and frustration? More fear and ignorance? Or peace, love, honesty, and humility?


Reiki is not just some fast track to be cool and spiritual. It is hard work. And yes, at times it can be scary work, but, oh… there are other times that are divinely inspired and filled with bliss; but you cannot achieve the high without the low. Do you have what it takes? If you’re reading this, you probably have already accepted my offer as a student. You’ve read my letter of welcome. You’ve heard the call, but you may still be weary and confused as to what this “Stuff” all entails.

Everyone’s practice and journey is unique, but we all hold the Reiki Gokai close to our hearts. Reiki can open so many doors for you, but you must be willing to do the necessary work to close the shutters on others. With Reiki, you learn to grow up in a sense, whilst still maintaining the love you had for others as a child. Development for everyone is different. There are no limits with Reiki training and learning. Every day I learn something new and exciting! And eventually you will die, and I will die. Will we reach enlightenment this lifetime? Who is to know? And if not, well then there is always our next lifetime with the ingrained wisdom we have learned in this one.


Living diligently doesn’t have to be stressful though. If the work is causing you to stress and worry, perhaps you are not effectively using your training. Because you should want to do “the work” willingly and with a good heart. Your attitude afterall with dictate the type of energy you bring to any situation. So if you are reluctant, or doing things just to do them, and not feeling them, not honouring them, not honouring yourself; well then I ask you, what is the point? Why are you here, and why are you doing this? You must value your personal and spiritual work!

There is a saying: “before enlightenment chop wood, carry water; after enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.”

Enlightenment isn’t always a forever thing. They are small moments of time in bliss and complete and utter rapture and connection. But they fade. And then we must chop wood and carry water again. This is your purpose. Reiki has found you for a reason. Embrace it! Embrace the Gokai! Embrace your life-purpose for being a healer, no matter what job-title you possess.


You are a healer. So healer, heal thyself! Become Self-Aware!

Now would be a great time to do the exercises in Living the Reiki Way on pages 225, 232, 233, and 237.

50 Tips for Showing Diligence in Personal Growth and Spiritual Development

  • Ask yourself: what is your role or job? What drives you? What are your ambitions and dreams? How do you feel about what you do to earn a living? What do you believe to be your life purpose?
  • Take some time to consider these questions.
  • Empower your goals with Reiki.
  • Say what you mean and mean what you will say.
  • Walk your talk.
  • Find other practitioners that can help you with your goals.
  • Organize and help each other.
  • Congratulate each other on reaching accomplishments.
  • Congratulate yourself upon reaching accomplishments.
  • Do your work honestly and be honest in your work.
  • Be honest with yourself and others.
  • Accept yourself for who you are not what you are.
  • Remember, we are human BEINGS, not human DOINGS.
  • Accept that we are all valuable and special: everyone has a role.
  • Learn to live what you love.
  • Be diligent, but remember your humility. Ask for help when you need it!
  • Read inspirational books.
  • Learn yoga or t’ai chi.
  • Learn various types of meditation practices.
  • Spend time in nature. We can learn so much from the natural world.
  • Study psychology and theology, these will help you develop more empathy as a healer and help you to heal past wounds.
  • Put what you learn from all of these and apply it to your life!
  • Put what you read and learn into practice!
  • Connect with your Higher or Inner Self.
  • Live authentically! Again, be true to yourself!
  • Volunteer for causes you are passionate about. Show people what Reiki is really about.
  • Live more consciously by being more grounded, clear, and compassionate.
  • Use soul-level awareness to view life in the context of the bigger picture.
  • Don’t just react to life, ask questions first: “What is the purpose, the highest truth, the soul gift for me in this situation?”
  • Make a list of ten things that bring you the greatest happiness. Do one every week!
  • Appreciate your unique gifts.
  • Take better care of yourself! Remember your Reiki 1 Training! Eat healthy, get plenty  of sleep, and don’t surround yourself with toxic environments.
  • Develop more of a spiritual lifestyle that focuses on compassion and acceptance.
  • Regularly review what you want your life to be like.
  • Make time just to “be,” to relax.
  • Devote time to go on occasional workshoppes or retreats. 
  • Simplify your life. Clear the clutter. 
  • Release old emotions, thinking patterns, or habits that clog up your energy.
  • Commit to a life filled with joy.
  • Raise your vibration with regular self-healing treatments.
  • Trust your inner guidance and go with the flow. 
  • Spend your time and money wisely. 
  • Take time to work – it is the price of success.
  • Take time to meditate – it is the source of power.
  • Take time to play – it is the secret of perpetual youth.
  • Take time to read – it is the way to knowledge.
  • Take time to be friendly – it is the road to happiness.
  • Take time to laugh- it is the music of the soul.
  • And take time to love and be loved – it is the path to joy and contentment.
  • “You don’t find the time, you make the time so that the time finds you.” And that’s a Derekism!



  • Gratitude to Creative Commons Photographers: BK and Celestine Chua
  • Living the Reiki Way by Penelope Quest