Why Porn is Unhealthy For Your Health

Regardless of whether or not you are gay or straight (or somewhere in between) you have to admit that porn, in its entirety is not very healthy for your mind, body, or spirit.

Now, I am all for healthy sexual expression, as is Ran Gavrieli, but I cannot condone rape, degradation, humiliation, crying, or torture in sexual acts.

Ran has a point, what we watch affects our minds, our imaginations, and our behavior.

Now, not all porn takes advantage of women, but the industry does perpetuate a cycle of sex and other human trafficking.  Porn is just legal prostitution. And regardless if you like it or not you have to agree with this.

It’s accepted. And to a certain extent should be. I understand many people have different fetishes and sexual fantasies. That is great and should be explored, just in healthy, humane, and harmonious ways. If you have a fetish that inflicts pain on another human being, as in torture or rape for example; then I feel you should do some serious soul searching.

Sex should be consensual. It should involve touching, laughing, and looking into each other’s eyes with affection and connection. Regardless if you know someone for 2 months or 2 minutes.

In the past, I have had a hot and cold relationship with porn. My first boyfriend ever ended up becoming a porn star. Porn has also allowed me to explore the realm of sex and its various acts and fantasies allowing me to discover some of my own. But really, as I have progressed on my spiritual and personal journey, it has become harder and harder to find a porn video that appeals to both my fantasies and my romantic notions. In the end I have just come to the conclusion that my consciousness just has moved past it. I can find so many other ways to pleasure myself in healthy ways by not feeding into the porn industry’s idea of what sex should look like. Call me old fashioned, but I prefer to watch other things besides penetration and men who do nothing but go to the gym and take medications to keep an erection. In the past, I have also had my fair share of partners who were into porn. But they were also into degrading me in inhumane and unpleasant ways. I have suffered through things most people should not have to suffer through. I have also been sexually assaulted, but this does not stop me from expressing my sensuality or my sexuality. If anything it has contributed to a better understanding of the lack of education and understanding surrounding healthy sexuality and its expression.

The realm of Sacred Sexuality and healthy expression is one that needs to be fostered in our modern world.

Regardless of whether or not you agree with Ran’s talk, here are some journal questions I would have you ask yourself:

  1. Why do I watch porn?
  2. What are my sexual fantasies?
  3. What are my partner’s sexual fantasies?
  4. What are some creative ways I can express my sexuality in a healthy way?
  5. Do I practice safe sex?
  6. When was the last time I got tested for STI’s?
  7. Do I have a high or low sex drive? What contributes to this?
  8. How can I introduce more foreplay? Does sex with me have intimacy?
  9. How can I introduce sex toys during foreplay/intercourse?
  10. Can I talk openly about my sex life with my partner/friends?

 

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