Expanding Your Happiness Day 11: Living Kindness


“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” —Lao Tzu

Kindness is the gracious gesture of a loving heart. Genuine kindness can’t be faked or forced. It must come straight from one’s center of being. It is the soul’s recognition that another person deserves the same love you give to yourself. Kindness bridges our isolated individuality and shows us we are connected at our core. This is how our happiness expands beyond our ego boundaries and transforms our sense of self.

Meditation today will enliven our core of love and encourage its movement out into our lives as kindness and joy. Every loving gesture is an expansion of our happiness.

Our centering thought for today is:

Kindness expresses the gentleness of the soul.

Our Sanskrit mantra for today is:

“Om Mitraya.” I am kind and friendly to all.

“Dr. Angelou said, ‘I have found that it’s among the benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver. When you learn, teach. When you get, give.’ Giving liberates the soul. I know that, I feel that, I live that. From the smallest random act of kindness to the biggest giveaways on television, everything is better when you share. Think of a moment when you gave someone the perfect gift,  or said something that was comforting, or you just showed up in a way that really made a difference. I believe that moment created as much joy for you, as it did for the other person. Maybe even more. That’s because when you reach out in kindness, you put into motion an energy that expands exponentially. The generous energy of love, connection, and joy. And that absolutely comes back, always. It is a spiritual law. So let’s expand on the spirit of living in kindness and meditate, together.” ~ Oprah

Today’s Notes

It’s inspiring to meet gentle people who open their hearts with generosity. There a phrase for the quality that they emanate: courtesy of the heart. 

The flow of loving kindness comes naturally. When you are loving you are expressing an aspect of universal consciousness.

“Love is the only reality, and it is not only a mere sentiment, it is the ultimate truth that lies that the heart of creation.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore

This gives us a new awareness of not only love, but of every aspect of universal consciousness.

Duality is a set up, everyone is worthy of our kindness and love. Those we reject to give our kindness to is nothing but separation and disconnection from your true self. Love is a steady state, like breathing, even when you don’t pay attention to it. An act of kindness is a natural extension of who you really are. To be kind means you set aside the ego’s fears and boundaries that a separate self is forced to live in. Nathaniael Brandon has written that there is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self esteem, the more likely one will be more apt to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity.

In wholeness, territory expands, the world becomes family. Love becomes boundless because you are the universe.

Consider our centering thought, “kindness expresses the gentleness of the soul.”

Now, prepare for meditation. Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes, and become aware of your breath. With each breath, allow yourself to become more relaxed. Then introduce today’s mantra, “Om Mitraya.” This mantra evokes feelings of kindness and friendliness. Repeat it silently to yourself. Feel your mind, body, and spirit open and receive just a little bit more.

My Thoughts & Experience

random act of kindness

Physical: Tingles in fingertips, gooseflesh, gentle ringing in my ears.
Mental/Emotional: Not kind enough to everybody. Snappish.
Spiritual: Feel I could do more. But also know I shouldn’t be so hard on myself.

We cannot be kind to everyone all the time, until we reach that place that Deepak spoke of where we are able to be kind, to everyone, all the time, without even thinking.

Sometimes, irritation gives way. Sometimes, when met with counter energy, we push back, so determined to finish what we started. Sometimes, stress triggers impulses that are not so kind. Sometimes, trauma comes back to bite us in the ass, and we feel so guilty and sorry for what we have done.

But we must also be kind to ourselves as well as others.

It is not as if we go around with the intention to do something unkind. So in those moments where we do find ourselves being not so nice, we can stop, hit the pause button, and apologize and learn from our mistakes so as to not repeat them. We can learn a great deal by analyzing our triggers, especially if we have PTSD or other psychological scaring.

And we can tip the scales. We can realize and act from the heart. We can be and breathe, and live, and be kindness itself. We can do random acts of kindness, not only to make up for what we have done, but because we sincerely do want to do good and do wish to make amends. We can and we must.



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