“Sometimes lovers feel that when love is there, they are not. To feel this in love is easy because love is gratifying, but to feel it in hate is difficult because hate is not gratifying. Lovers, deep lovers, have felt that it is not that they “love” – love is not an activity – rather, they have become love.״ ~Osho
“Relationship means something complete, finished, closed. Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues.
Love is a container, it is a verb not a noun. And why do we reduce the beauty of relating into relationship? Why are we in such a hurry? Because to relate is insecure and relationship is a security. Relationship has a certainty, and relating is just a meeting of strangers, a meeting, an overnight stay, and in the morning we say goodbye. Who knows what will happen tomorrow? We are so afraid that we want to make it certain. That we want to make it predictable. We would like tomorrow according to our ideas. We don’t allow it freedom to have its own say. So we immediately reduce every verb into a noun. You are in love with a man or woman and immediately to start thinking of getting married to make it a legal contract. Why?
Why? In a better world, with more meditative people, with a little more enlightenment is spread over out onto others, people will love. And love immensely. But their love will remain in relating not in relationship. And I’m not saying that their love will only be one moment. There is every possibility that their love will go deeper than your love and may have a higher level of intimacy and may have something more of poetry in it and more of god in it. And there is every possibility their love will last longer than your so called relationship lasts ever. But it will not be guaranteed by law by the court by the police man. The guarantee will be inner. It will be a commitment from the heart. It will be a silent communion.
If you enjoy being with somebody, you will like to enjoy them more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you will like to explode the intimacy more and more. Forget relationships and learn how to relate. Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted. That is what destroys all love affairs. Relating means you are always starting. You are continuously trying to be acquainted again and again. You are introducing yourself to each other over and over. You are trying to see the so many faces of the other’s personality. You are trying to penetrate deeper and deeper into his realm, into his inner feelings, into the deeper recesses of his being. You are trying to unravel a mystery that which cannot be unraveled, and that is the joy of love. The explosion of consciousness.
And if you relate and don’t reduce it into a relationship, the other will become embodied into you. Exploding him, unaware that you will be exploding yourself too. Getting deeper into the other, knowing his feelings, his thoughts, his deeper stirrings, you will be knowing your own deeper stirrings too. Lovers become mirrors to each other, and their love becomes a meditation.”
“And then Love becomes a meditation.” Mmm! Isn’t that so poetic! The explosion of consciousness, the explosion of Love and Relating. But how do we get there? How do we get to that spot? Well, it starts first by loving yourself.
Thought of the Day: “I am ready to experience love in every moment of my life.”
So start. Start experiencing love in every moment. Learn to appreciate the flower instead of picking it. Learn to look in awe and wonderment at the world around you. Even if it is just ants and concrete. See the beauty, see the art in the movement of the ants. See the sparkling flecks of mica in the concrete. Watch the sunshine reflect off of windows and mirrors and buildings. Notice the rainbows in street signs. Look in the mirror and see your own beauty. You are not a leper. You are worthy of this world. You are loved and you are lovable. You are.
Today, we were given two meditations. One to do on our own, and the other to do with a partner, lover, or friend. One to embrace the feeling of Self Love and the other to embrace the love connection you have with someone else.