Finding Your Flow Day 9: Activating Happiness (Sacred Sexuality)


Journal: Earth Day. Sunrise 6:01 am EST. Albany, NY 68° F. Sunset: 7:45 pm EST. Swadhisthana. स्वाधिष्ठान. Sacral Chakra.
Centering thought: “My life energy is bringing me pleasure.” || Mantra: Om Rakini Namah. “I activate my happiness.” 

In today’s meditation, we were asked to begin to notice how you respond to the desires that come into our awareness throughout the day. What times do you respond with acceptance and joy and also when do your desires get blocked by judgement and suppression? By opening and embracing our true desires, by saying yes to happiness, joy, satisfaction, and bliss, we can notice how energy flows around and is reflected back in our direction. This is how we activate our second chakra, Swadhisthana.

Last week, we experienced ourselves through the seven primary energy centers of consciousness. This week, we will clear, open, and activate each of our seven chakras, transforming old constrictive patterns into expansive, powerful, and joyful expressions of our true selves.

Yesterday, I wrote about the Root Chakra, its energy of protection, and its links to childhood abuse, anxiety, and fear. Today, I will be discussing and delving into the realms of pleasure, sex, and what it truly means to be happy.

As we activate the chakras, the energy begins to flow freely in its natural state. The movement is not random or blind—it is intelligent and purposeful. It not only clears away the obsolete habits and conditioning in our lives . . . it also structures new patterns of thought and behavior that reflect our infinite potentiality.


The Sacral power of Swadhisthana is connected to so much more than happiness, joy, and simple pleasures. An aspect of the sacral that is skirted around though is sacred sexuality. I was shocked that Deepak did not touch upon this topic directly, but he did make some references.

Deepak said today that “it is a common belief that if we want to experience more happiness each day, we merely need to increase the number or intensity of pleasurable experiences we have in life. In truth, sustained happiness is something we generate in the silence of our consciousness.”

Here I feel he is indirectly bringing up sex and sensuality discretely via the words intensity and pleasurable experiences, however tongue and cheek my opinion might be.

But I think he has a point. The way modern society views sex as a commodity to throw around as a trade, and not as a sacred act is a bit disconcerting. We run around so much looking for happiness, looking for a good time, looking to laugh, looking to get your rocks off, looking to express our emotions in a socially acceptable environment; and the only one that is available en mass is located at bars. There alcohol loosens you up, and it is acceptable behavior in some establishments to get loud, obnoxious, laugh like hyaenas, maybe even cry in the bathroom, maybe pick someone up to take to the bedroom, and drink your worries away however impermanent. This is not true happiness. It is only an illusion of it.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”  —Mahatma Gandhi


It takes time to outgrow patterns of behaviour, and especially patters where ego and embarrassment and suppression like to dictate how we perceive and interact with the world. We have a fundamental right to show our emotions. We have a right to cry, to laugh, to smile, without inhibition. We have a right to have sex with whoever we find attractive (as long as they feel the same way.) We have a right to embrace our sexuality, openly, freely, healthily, and not with shame. If you are a girl and find girls attractive, so be it. If you are a guy and like guys, don’t fear other’s judgement. It is 2014. If you are kinky and are into things not main-stream… as long as you are mindful of your health and wellbeing… all the better. Have fun! Get tantric! Experiment! But not at someone else’s expense. There is a fine line between sharing your bed with someone you value and love as another expression of the Divine, and with someone who you are just taking advantage of in a lonely and vulnerable position.

There is a saying that I subscribe to:

“Your naked body should belong only to those who fall in love with your naked soul.”

By embracing these fundamental rights of the sacral, we awaken our inner sensuality, desire, joy, and embrace our vulnerability. To do so takes great courage, and we should all applaud our efforts at transformation and coming into our own in our own good and healthy time.


All of our chakras affect each other. When one is happy and healthy, the others begin to harmonize. When one is unbalanced however, it affects them, and can cause dis-ease, and even illness. The sacral chakra, is especially important because it provides us with the foundation to express our desires and the things that bring a smile to our faces. It is the home of our deep sensual and creative nature, and keeps us nurtured and satisfied.

Sabrina Reber writes, “The Sacral Chakra is located in the lower abdomen below the naval and is developed during the age of 6-24 months. It is associated with procreation, assimilation of food, creativity, sexuality, vitality, desire, the will of spirit and emotional balance.”

When our Swadhisthana is balanced we are able to: “Express ourselves, have Emotional Intelligence, have the ability to Experience Pleasure, to have Healthy Sexuality, to Nurture Self and Others, to have Healthy Boundaries, to be Open to Change, to Work Harmoniously with Others.”

We are willing to feel Our emotions and are able to express ourselves without loosing our center. We enjoy pleasurable activities without having the need to overindulge in things that compromise our health and well-being. Unfortunately, many of us were taught not to express our emotions leading to emotional instability and the desire to numb our emotions with food, drugs and alcohol.”

She goes on to say that “the sacredness and power of our sexual energy has been greatly distorted and abused. Religions create shame, depression and denial of sexuality while big corporations use sex and sexually explicit messages to increase sells. Sex is either denied or overindulged creating all kinds of perversions, and addictions. We have lost touch with the intimacy and sacredness of sexual union partly because we have also shut down our emotional bodies. Unfortunately, blocking the natural flow of emotions and the powerful forces of our sexual energy creates blocks within our system that inhibits our natural flow of life force energy from cleansing and healing our entire system.”


When our Swadhisthana is blocked, we have writer’s block, can’t paint, can’t cook. We become “Overindulgent in Food, Drugs, Alcohol, Material Things and Sex. We are Confused, Lack Purpose, and Thrive in Crisis,  are Jealous, have Sexual Difficulties, Impotence, Poor Boundaries, Disconnected from Others.”

All of this can be caused from traumas to the Sacral Chakra, such as “Sexual or Emotional Abuse, Neglect, Denial of Child’s Feelings, Alcoholic or Drug Addicted Families, and/or Religious Extremes.”

Sabrina explains that when the Swadhisthana is imbalanced for extended periods of time, it often will build up and become an energy blockage that physically manifest as bodily symptoms such as Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Infections, “Sexual DysfunctionsImpotence, Aging, Stiff Lower Back, Inflexible, Uterine, Bladder or Kidney Problems.” I would go further to add, infertility, endometriosis, testicular/ovarian cancer, miscarriage, severe promiscuity, (spending more time on grindr than on spending time with friends/family), inability to “get off” during sex, inability to find a romantic partner, inability to keep a long lasting romantic relationship, or even resorting to prostitution. I would even go so far as to say that you would even be more prone to committing an act of rape when your Swadhisthana is blocked or out of balance.


When we really stop to think about this stuff, it is easy to disregard it as “woo-woo.” But there is incredible truth here. Sabrina explains it pretty straight forward:

“The Sacral Chakra is where we process our emotions. Many people are disconnected from their emotions (sacral chakra) because their root chakra is blocked. They are fearful (root) of lovingly and authentically expressing how they truly feel (sacral). Many of us were taught that crying and sharing our emotions was a sign of weakness. We bought into the idea that emotions were bad and ended up doing great harm to our sacral chakra. Instead of feeling our feelings and allowing our emotions to be expressed, in a healthy way, we tend to block them denying that they ever existed.

When we actively begin healing the sacral chakra old stuffed emotions from our past, specifically our childhood, will begin to surface so they can be felt, expressed and finally released. In addition, memories of times you have hurt others will also be revealed for a final clearing. In order to truly heal and clear out our sacral chakra we need to revisit our disowned emotional aspects of ourselves that we have denied. Once these blocks are removed, we will free up space in our sacral chakra for divine energy to move up into our third chakra, the Solar Plexus.”


What are some tips to help balance your Swadhisthana?

Physical: Eat orange fruits and vegetables and drink water. Oranges, mangos, carrots, pumpkin, sweet potatoes, tangerines, persimmons, cantaloupe, peaches, papaya, apricots, orange peppers, and squash all have Swadhisthana energy in their colour. Dance! Try doing some Tantric Yoga, or sensual massage with your mate(s).

Mental: Take a creative writing class or something else that brings you joy. Read “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Ruben, The Gay Kama Sutra by Colin Spencer, and/or “The Art of Happiness” by the Dalai Lama.

Emotional: Talk to your mate about your sexual desires/fantasies. Ask yourself what makes you truly happy? What brings joy to your heart? How could you better express your feelings?

Sexual/Spiritual: Look into Tantra, Sacred Sexuality, and even  dedicate an altar to your own fertility. Meditate upon an orange mandala, talk with your inner guides about what has happened, and what lessons are to be learned to change your patterns of behaviour.

Environmental: Surround yourself with orange. Colour therapy works!  Wear a orange tee shirt, sweater or dress. Put up a picture or orange painting. Change your sheets. Change your phone cover or background. Create a space where you can feel creative! Where you can write, paint, or dance.


Again, by embracing these, we awaken our inner artists, and embrace our vulnerability. To do so takes great courage, and we should all applaud our efforts at transformation and coming into our own in our own good and healthy time.


Om Rakini Namah. I am happiness. Om Rakini Namah. I am desire. Om Rakini Namah. I am joy.




Creative Commons Photography courtesy of: Kuchingboy, David Humpohl,  Mehnert, A Guy Taking Pictures,  Mikhitarov, Tambako the Jaguar, and Sssnole.


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