Affirmation: “My heart blooms like a star.”

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Lunar meditation: A poem of your choice

Here is a poem I wrote in February of 2011.

Rememberings of a Dream Long Ago

Send me away on a boat of spices &herbs,
floating away with the perfume of incense.
A sailing pyre of lament and hope for the future.
The realms diverge and converge on the ocean waves.
Will you send me away?
Into the depths of the white light?
Into the warmest lands of glaciers and
coldest worlds of desert? I’m sailing
away into the other-realms, yearning
for so much more than this
everyday monotony..

Betham and Nugent filled my mind most of the time.
Shakespeare on others, on  the more drunken nights
But know that my words were always meant to be read
By the light of the moon and by the scent of the sea.
Sailing away, I salute the ancients, the old and young.
My fire burns always, the Light of the Way.
Follow the spark of Love-
Forever.

The waves rock me to and fro,
Given enough time I would recite
complete works, of artes past.
So, send me away
Away, on a bed of herbs & spices.
Let the incense pierce the veil, may the Light
that is my Life fill your eyes.
If you bury me upon the ocean waves, a mummified druid-
Dreamer and Shaman, healer of the new.
Visionary. Optimist. Will you listen to the words?
The drum beat of the dirges?
Will you feel the ebb and flow,
If I wear my shroud and you your tuxedo?

I’ve had enough moments to know,
To know what all these Lives and times amount to.
In the end everything comes together in a beautiful mess of reality,
Our realities, into the mists of the Otherworlds,
Our worlds.

So send me into our world,
On a bed of herbs & spices,
Smooring myself with flowers of Light,
Flowers of Life,
Flowers of Love.
Sending out ripples of destiny on the sea of Fate.

If I die send me away, on a bed of herbs and spices:
On a pyre of Love poems.

Do you have coin for the boatman?
To part the Mists and send me Home.

 

Which ideas and structures have you outgrown?

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We all go through changes in ideology as we grow.

Sometimes we outgrow social norms, or expectations placed upon us from society or our families.

There comes a time when we realize what no longer speaks to us, that which no longer holds our strongest convictions or our strongest interests.

Sometimes, we just need to strike out on our own and forge our own ideas and structures for living.

When you sit there and think to yourself and meditate on this question, which ones have you outgrown? Which relationships no longer hold strong? Which things in your life no longer hold true to your deepest aspirations? Which ideas and structures no longer serve your dignity nor vibrate with your heart? Are there people, places, or things that just don’t feel right any longer? And are you able to walk away from them with a smile?

Why?

Solar question prompted by Caitlin Matthews, Celtic Devotional

Lunar meditation: The relief of problem’s dissolution

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Ahhh…that sweet feeling when problems are no more.

When all worry fades away, and you can finally relax.

The work is done. The frantic running around is complete. The obstacles are moved aside.

Bliss.

There is no greater feeling than when the burden on one’s shoulders has finally been lifted.

Meditating upon that within itself makes me refocus and remember that the end goal is and can be justifiable. That the sweet nectar of finally reaching that point will be more than worth it, and then some.

Ahh…sweet…blissful…relief.

Good night, sweet dreams.

Lunar meditation prompted by Caitlin Matthews, Celtic Devotional.

Which unacknowledged needs are eating holes in you?

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This question digs deep and forces us to consider our truest needs.

Our physical, emotional, spiritual, sexual, and mental needs.

We all have our own uniques ways about us. And our needs are unique to our personalities.

What is being unexpressed? What would be the worst thing if you divulged those needs to those who could fulfill them with ease?

Makes you wonder why we spend so much time neglecting those deep feelings and yearnings? Why we spend so much time denying ourselves those pleasures? Ohh…society…

Allow yourself that one simple pleasure of relaying those needs to another. Part the mists of your own inner critic. You may come to realize that those needs arent all that bad or weird or unhealthy.

Rather, the healthiest thing would be to actually express those needs in a responsible manner and bring yourself some peace.

Its fun exploring yourself. And its even funner when you explore with a partner.

Namaste.

Be safe.

Solar question prompted by Caitlin Matthews, Celtic Devotional.

Lunar meditation: Sources of comfort

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Aromatherapy, a nice cup of tea, a trusted blanket softened with time, a favourite tee shirt. All of these can be sources of physical comfort.

Paired with cuddles in the arms of a lover or spent with friends can add a deeper emotional level of comfort.

Add all of this to the beauty of a sunrise or sunset, a walk in the woods, or even just sitting looking out at grandmother’s garden. This is where spirit truly comes alive.

What gives you comfort?

Good night, sweet dreams.

Lunar meditation prompted by Caitlin Matthews, Celtic Devotional.

Are you in touch with your emotions?

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It really does make me wonder how is it possible in this day and age that people still allow themselves to go around in apathy?

These emotionally resilient people are perfectly fine with simple mundane existence rather than actually living.  

But living and being in tune with your own emotions does wonders for your well being. This self awareness of having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment. 

This emotional awareness is often called Emotional Intelligence or EQ. 

“Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence impacts many different aspects of your daily life, such as the way you behave and the way you interact with others.

If you have high emotional intelligence you are able to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional states of others, and engage with people in a way that draws them to you. You can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success at work, and lead a more fulfilling life.”

Having a good EQ is all about Self-awareness.  By recognizing your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior, you learn and have a firm grasp of your strengths and weaknesses, which all increase self-confidence. Having this awareness then allows you to manage your emotions and you’re able to better control impulsive feelings and behaviors. By managing your emotions in healthy ways allows you to take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances with ease. Self awareness also allows you be aware of others. By understanding the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, you are able to pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and then can recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.
All of this in turn allows you to live holistically and peacefully as so you can develop and maintain good relationships. 

So why is it so important to be in touch with your emotions? Because it improves your health! Your mental, physical, and spiritual health on all levels! It also helps your performance at work, and also improves your relationships especially those important romantic ones that allow you to create connection.

There is a wonderful article here that suggests ways to increase your Emotional Intelligence. 

Some people however in one form or another develop a low emotional intelligence and thus apathy towards their emotions, in my opinion, due to some sort of emotional numbness which occurs as a response to extreme physical or psychological trauma. If this is the case, healing is just around the corner. Abuse survivors, sufferers of PTSD, or simply the pangs of a deeply broken heart can wreck havoc on a person’s psyche and spirit. 

I have often struggled with patients who had such strong emotional blocks that they were unable to continue treatment. Once we were finally getting somewhere, their response to the release of these emotional blocks was too much for them to handle at the time, which under the circumstances is understandable. My point here being though is that emotional blocks take time to heal, and healing can only happen if you want to be healed. There is no reason to feel undeserving. This attitude is directly related to the trauma. So, when the time comes for you to open those emotional doors beware, you may become uncomfortable. But being uncomfortable for a short time in my opinion far outweighs the pain and suffering of staying in emotional limbo for all of your life. 

Why exist when you can live? Treatment and help is available, as well as affordable if not for free. Don’t allow yourself any reason to not seek the help. Love yourself enough to let your Self find peace.  

Namaste.

Solar question prompted by Caitlin Matthews, Celtic Devotional.
The following are a list of interesting facts about emotions. 

  1. Some researchers fear that technology, particularly social networking, is creating emotional disconnection rather than connection.f
  2. Emotional abuse is similar to brainwashing in that it attempts to systematically wear away a person’s self-confidence, self-worth, and self-concept. Emotional abuse can take many forms, including using economic power to control, threatening to leave, degrading, belittling, continually criticizing, name calling, or shouting.e
  3. Any emotion has three components: 1) physiological changes (e.g., acceleration of heart rate) 2) behavioral response, such as a tendency to escape from or stay into contact with whatever is causing the emotion, and 3) a subjective experience, such as feeing angry, happy, or sad.e
  4. A 1980 study by Robert Plutchik proposed eight primary innate emotions: joy, acceptance, fear, surprise, sadness, disgust, anger, and anticipation. He suggests that complex emotions such as guilt and love are derived from combinations of primary emotions.c
  5. A human can make over 10,000 facial expressions to express a wide variety of subtle emotions.c
  6. Body language often reveals emotion. For example, a person standing with their arms on hips with elbows turned outward is an example of a territorial display. Someone with their hands folded and their thumbs popped up indicates that he or she has something positive to say. Touching the nose indicates someone is hiding something. A former FBI agent and specialist in nonverbal communication states that the “feet provide the strongest body language signals.”e
  7. Emotions are contagious. Negative or unpleasant emotions are more contagious than neutral or positive emotions.c
  8. Researchers note that when concealing a strong emotion, people tend to let out “micro-expressions,” or sudden leakages, of emotion unbeknownst to themselves very briefly, in as little as a 24th of a second.c

REFERENCES

c Eckman, Paul. 2003. Emotions Revealed. New York, NY: Henry Holt and Company, LLC.

e MacDonald, Matthew. 2008. Your Brain: The Missing Manual. Sebastopol, CA: O’Reilly Media, Inc.

f Sandler, Elana Premack. “Facebook, Emotions, and Identity: The Social Network and Teen Emotional Health.” Psychology Today. March 30, 2011. Accessed: June 10, 2012.