The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto by Brené Brown

You all know that I became a fan of Brené Brown the second I clicked on her lecture on Vulnerability on TED a few years ago. After seeing her on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday this last weekend, I decided to really do some more research and catch up with her. Now, she has written a new book, Daring Greatly! Check out this excerpt:

Above all else, I want you to know that you are loved and lovable. You will learn this from my words and actions–the lessons on love are in how I treat you and how I treat myself.

I want you to engage with the world from a place of worthiness. You will learn that you are worthy of love, belonging, and joy every time you see me practice self-compassion and embrace my own imperfections.

We will practice courage in our family by showing up, letting ourselves be seen, and honoring vulnerability. We will share our stories of struggle and strength. There will always be room in our home for both.

We will teach you compassion by practicing compassion with ourselves first; then with each other. We will set and respect boundaries; we will honor hard work, hope, and perseverance. Rest and play will be family values, as well as family practices.

You will learn accountability and respect by watching me make mistakes and make amends, and by watching how I ask for what I need and talk about how I feel.

I want you to know joy, so together we will practice gratitude.

I want you to feel joy, so together we will learn how to be vulnerable.

When uncertainty and scarcity visit, you will be able to draw from the spirit that is a part of our everyday life.

Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain, but instead I will sit with you and teach you how to feel it.

We will laugh and sing and dance and create. We will always have permission to be ourselves with each other. No matter what, you will always belong here.

As you begin your Wholehearted journey, the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly.

I will not teach or love or show you anything perfectly, but I will let you see me, and I will always hold sacred the gift of seeing you. Truly, deeply, seeing you.

It really moves me, not only because I am a product of domestic abuse, but also as a person who is human and wants to be loved, seen and heard. If I could, I would give Brené a HUGE hug, because I truly believe that if any family decides to make this or just a part of this manifesto a part of their lives, lives have been truly changed for the better.

Click over to Brenés FREE Download of the poster. Be inspired to be wholehearted not only the way you parent, but also the way in which you treat all other living things. Don’t be afraid to confront your own shame. Check out her other TED lecture on Listening to Shame. 

Evermore in Love,

Derek

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3 thoughts on “The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto by Brené Brown

  1. I almost can’t wait to have kids just so I can share this wisdom hahaha. Seriously, though, her work is quite inspiring! Her TED Talk changed my relationship with boyfiend, along with the way i interact with my clients as a Social Worker. I like all your categories, too, will def be back here in the future 🙂

    1. Thanks Cathy! She really is! I went out yesterday to pick up some notecards, and “happened” to browse the Self-Improvement section (always a “bad” idea, lol). I ended up finding more than I should have, and had to quick-check myself. “Do you really need all three of her books? Isn’t there already a mountain of em at home on the bookshelf in the To-Read section?” So I resolved to add her books on THEE list of books to get once I read or lend out the others. In the mean time, I will be reading her blog (and yours I might add). 🙂 Thank-you so much for your kind words, and I can’t wait to see what you do next! The Random Eggs of Kindness: Genius!

      1. I look forward to seeing what you think about the read as it cones to an end 🙂 Watched super soul sunday last night after work, just what i needed to begn an amazing 4 day weekend!

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