Week 15 Challenge: Be Your Own Inner Healer!

(c) Snapped by Derek
Grafton Peace Pagoda, NY

This week, I challenge you to be your inner Healer!

Loving ourselves is the way of the Healer. Reaching deep within our own source for healing can show us how great medicine men and women have been the great doctors, therapists, counselors and mentors throughout the ages.

This week I share Angeles Arrien’s* “Way of the Healer.” A fundamental way that can guide us on our paths “to pay attention to what has heart and meaning. All Healers recognize that the power of love is the most potent healing force available to all human beings. To be an effective Healer is to extend the arms of love via acknowledgment, acceptance, recognition, validation, and gratitude.” These are all effective tools to heal past wounds, current ones in the making, and hindering ones to come.We all have wounds, battle-scars of past traumas that sometimes make heavy imprints on our minds, lives, and hearts. And it is not always easy to forget them, nor is it always easy to make sense of them as well. Sometimes we can spend, weeks, months, and years even mourning something incredibly tragic, and still not know that crippling question deep in our minds: “Why?” What is worse still however, is allowing your past to cripple you in the present. And we are all guilty of allowing this to happen from time to time.Old memories can hit you out of nowhere, and all your old worries, insecurities, and pain can come flooding back. We aren’t always so strong willed, no matter how spiritual we may be. We are human and we make mistakes. Not blaming ourselves for those mistakes, however is the key to get out and away before you do something you really don’t want to do. We all have a dark side that can crave self-destruction…remember that. We all have our addictions: drugs, alcohol, sex, coffee, Lifetime movies…that we use to take “the edge off,” but underneath it all, and if we aren’t careful, these addictions may become self-negating patterns of destruction.We all sometimes crave sensationalism, and dramatize, exaggerate. We all crave to be perfect, but to be perfect discounts the wonders of excellence, which “incorporates and learns from mistakes. People who are addicted to perfection have little tolerance for mistakes or exposure of vulnerability of any kind.” I myself have issues with vulnerability, so much so that I go to great lengths to hide a lot of my feelings, a lot of my fears, and a lot of my thoughts. This, my friends, is not healthy. Anyone who knows me, knows I wear my heart on my sleeve, but I hold back alot as well.I recently gave in to a self-negating pattern, which forced me to take a very hard look in the mirror. Yes, we are not all perfect, and we do make mistakes, but we still have to own those mistakes. Very little if nothing can be done to take them back. No matter how small it may seem at the time, our Shadow selves are wiser than we think. They are on one hand our worst enemy, yet also our best teachers. The only thing we can do is acknowledge our role in the mistake, apologize whole-heartedly, and hope with time the pain that you allowed back into your life did not permanently damage what could have been. In the end all we have is hope. All we have is love. And all we have is our selves, with every action, or inaction. With every kiss we give, and every punch we throw; we are a series of memories, and it is our job to ensure that the ones we create are good ones.

*Angeles Arrien, PhD, is an anthropologist, author, educator and corporate consultant who does work shoppes and lectures throughout the world. She bridges indigenous wisdom with our so called “modern” lifestyles. She focuses so on our family, work and personal lives as well as our relationship with nature, and teaches us how to bring forth this “Four-Fold Way.

So, I will begin as always as asking you to ask yourself: how are you as you are entering this time for yourself? Have a heart-to-heart with yourself and reflect on your week past.

Were you able to incorporate last week’s challenge with your busy Life? If so, GREAT!
If not, that is okay too.

The whole point is to go at your own pace. You shouldn’t have to struggle to have fun, it should come naturally and on its own time.

Things you can do this week to bring out your inner Healer:

  1. Incorporate Jeanne Achterberg’s 8 Concepts of Healing into your Life: Healing is a lifelong journey toward wholeness. Healing is remembering what has been forgotten about connection, and unity and interdependence among all things living and nonliving.  Healing is embracing what is most feared. Healing is opening what has been closed, softening what has hardened into obstruction. Healing is entering into the transcendent, timeless moment when one experiences the divine. Healing is creativity and passion and love. Healing is seeking and expressing self in its fullness, its light and shadow, its male and female. Healing is learning to trust life.
  2. Develop a “Principle of Reciprocity, the ability to equally give and receive and the ability to connect. In order to maintain health and well-being, we need to maintain the balance between growing and receiving and to recognize when one mode is overextended and the other is under-expressed.” -Angeles
  3. Cradling work: “staying connected to the good, true, and beautiful aspects of one’s nature via creative visualization, affirmation, or self-esteem work.” -Angeles
  4. Acknowledge the Love you have inside of you. The Love you give and the Love you receive.
  5. Identify your wound(s). Embrace them. Confront them. Stare them down and learn from them. Accept them. Recognize them. Validate and show gratitude for them.
  6. Cry when you must cry.
  7. Have a heart-to-heart with yourself every day. Ask yourself, how are you doing, really? Try to find that silver lining, make it your security blanket.
  8. Ask yourself and talk with a loved one: what are your stories? The good ones? Your favourite ones?
  9. Write a gratitude letter to a friend, family member, or even to yourself.
  10. Singing, dancing, journey work, lying meditation, and silence will also help to align you with your inner Healer as well.

So, how will you incorporate the challenge for this week, hmmmmm? I would love to hear. Feel free to reply or comment on my facebook or website page, or if you want to be a bit more private shoot me an email, or simply right your musings down in your journal. The point is to reflect, and learn from yourself.

YAY! Affirmations!

Don’t forget, you can tweak them to your liking. In order to make them yours, you must believe them. So switch ’em up if the inspiration strikes!

Today’s Affirmation: “I am a Healer!

“I am whole-hearted. I am full-hearted. I am clear-hearted. I am open-hearted.”

“I am grateful for…

“I place both hands on my heart. I am healing! I am Loved!”

“My talents and gifts are…!”

“I am allowed to have fun! I am allowed to play! I am allowed to laugh!

And lastly: “I pay attention to what has heart and meaning. I will be my own inner Healer!

I wish you well on your Journeys this week!
Look deep into your four-chambered heart. What stories can be found there, and what stories are yet to be written? Mine is full, open, clear and strong. There will always be obstacles, of course, but I stay truest by asking what has heart & meaning for me? I listen to the winds and they whisper in my ear; speaking of memories found deep within, and of the new memories yet to come. There is much to tell. There is much to learn. For me, Life is all about the little gems we allow ourselves to Love. So, it is time to say good-bye to insecurity, and hello to a happy life with the man I love.

With Love, Derek.


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